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Post by cavendish on Apr 16, 2022 8:46:37 GMT
I didn’t like the snark and disrespect the host of the after party showed toward Lindsey.this week And also the special guest. (I have no idea who that woman was or why she was invited onto the show— maybe the newlyweds don’t feel like participating which I can understand. But she had nothing to contribute)
I find myself kind of liking Lindsey for some reason even if she is “difficult ”— or as everyone falls back on “a lot”. I feel for her. I don’t think mark has for one minute really thought of or tried to be a husband. I get the feeling he’s never gotten out of the “shea s lot” phase And I suspect he is pretty inconsistent — which probably does really hurt her. He acts l Ike. He was hit in the head by a heavy object on day one and has never quite gotten his wits back. It’s probably a huge stretch for him to cope with her intensity and reactivity. And I do think he’s not a bad guy. I justthink he’s in way over his head and has no idea how to be in a serious relationship.
I don’t think he should be sitting around making snide comment s about her and letting the others do so in his presence. I Have not once seen him say or indicate —or defend or reach out when she’s hurt or feels put down.
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Post by coco46 on Apr 20, 2022 21:11:13 GMT
I really would have very little patience with someone like Lindsey and I think she will never change, mainly because she "sees" the faults in others around her, but never her own. How many times did Mark try to carry on a conversation to address things between them and got nowhere. Lindsey would just bail. I am not saying that Mark is perfect, but I feel that he at least tried to resolve things and she wasn't having any of it. I also felt that many of her comments were inappropriate in a group setting and her laugh would drive me nuts. I am not sure any of these couples will make it.
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Post by Punkin on Apr 21, 2022 3:28:27 GMT
I feel sorry for Lindsey, but I just can't fathom how these "experts" were not able to see how much of a damaged and self-defeating person she is. Mark the Shark was set up to lose, as was Lindsey, for our amusement. And that's only one couple out of the majority in past seasons who were disasters. It's not funny anymore. I think I'm done. I'd rather watch Hoarders.
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Post by cavendish on Apr 21, 2022 9:02:32 GMT
I agree that it’s hard for someone like Lindsey. To change because she in pain and obviously has such excruciatingly negative sense of herself that it’s hard to talk openly about how it feels when others dislike or seem to reject her. So she turns it against them and tries to feel good and to make them the bad one. Which is just a reversal of what she’s really feeling.
It’s harder to empathize with someone like her and I’m sure impossible to meet her needs. Still I wish that mark had been more emotionally available and able to give her some sense at least of a more consistent and trustworthy and caring love.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2022 19:12:17 GMT
Marriage is not easy and it takes work. I can see where Mark is struggling because Lindsey is difficult to talk to. How would you like it if your spouse says I'm done all the time. If Mark wasnt trying then he would of just packed his bags and left. Thats what I would do. Even if both say stay I dont think their marriage will last.
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Post by Critical on May 2, 2022 4:13:40 GMT
In previous seasons - but not every one - I've been eager to see Decision Day and annoyed about those "prediction specials." This season, I'm annoyed about that special next week because it just delays the end of this horrible season. I don't think ANY of these people should stay married.
Noi is SO deeply immature. Why Steve thinks she deserves another ring, I don't know.
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Post by cavendish on May 2, 2022 6:28:22 GMT
What gets me about Noi is that when she doesn’t like something, which is often, she makes this very obvious face like she’s smelled something bad. Steve never asks her what’s the matter so it’s like she’s just going to add whatever it was to a list of objections she’s got in a chest of drawers
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Post by cavendish on May 5, 2022 23:45:32 GMT
I would see that Lindsey says "I'm done" or walks away when she's hurt, not when she's really done. That doesn't mean that she's handling things that hurt her very well, but any observant spouse would quickly come to realize that "I'm done" is not to be taken seriously. I'm pretty sure that Mark realizes this-- but I just see him as an emotionally fairly slow person-- he's doesn't react-- and it takes him so long to absorb and process emotional experience that by the time he has, the moment for response has passed. Plus I think he himself is pretty easily confused and disoriented by emotions. He's pretty caught up in his own inner discomfort with emotional exchange that he doesn't want to prolong it-- not because he's hurt by what Lindsey is saying, as he's just finding it too much work to engage on that level, and he's essentially very quickly burned out.
I don't think Mark is a bad guy, or means to hurt Lindsey, and I think he does care about her-- but he just can't swim in the emotional deep water that she takes for granted. In that sense, they were a total mismatch. In fact, I think it would be difficult to match either one of them, because they're both pretty difficult to relate to. Someone who wants to stay on a fairly simple level, could maybe work with him. But he really wouldn't be able to meet anyone's emotional needs if they were wanting more than that-- but then maybe there are plenty of people who would be satisfied by a nice, well=meaning guy with whom they could start a family. And one of his really good qualities is that he doesn't seem to need to have dominance and control over the other persons feelings and decisions
Speaking of which, the Australian MAFS guy from Texas I never caught his name) is the exact opposite. Not only does he not care about the impact of anything he says on his partner-- which he calls "homest" and I would call cruel, harsh and often rubbing in what is already a hurtful comment-- but the instant his "wife" says anything he doesn't like or is "honest" in a way that isn't what he wants to hear, he flips into attack mode. What a non-prize this guy is. I feel really sorry for the woman who is his partner, who is so sad and already has a sense of failure because she may have lost her chance to have a child. She doesn't deserve this guy's brand of meanness.
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Post by nicksmom on May 12, 2022 12:51:39 GMT
I can’t believe all these couples stayed together. I bet by reunion and just seeing the previews some are not.
We know O and Katina must be still together because of that neck tattoo. It kept showing up in the interviews but it wasn’t there on the reunion show. These too should not be together.
Did they really need the 5 th couple there .
Glad this season is over it felt really long.
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Post by Ellabella on May 12, 2022 14:34:09 GMT
I was also shocked they all stayed together, but I believe most are not together anymore.
Katina and O should not have stayed together at all,
he just abuses and demeans her.
I don't see Mark and Lindsey working out for long.
I agree, the 5th couple had no reason to be there.
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Post by Eastcoastmom on May 12, 2022 19:53:59 GMT
I would see that Lindsey says "I'm done" or walks away when she's hurt, not when she's really done. That doesn't mean that she's handling things that hurt her very well, but any observant spouse would quickly come to realize that "I'm done" is not to be taken seriously. I'm pretty sure that Mark realizes this-- but I just see him as an emotionally fairly slow person-- he's doesn't react-- and it takes him so long to absorb and process emotional experience that by the time he has, the moment for response has passed. Plus I think he himself is pretty easily confused and disoriented by emotions. He's pretty caught up in his own inner discomfort with emotional exchange that he doesn't want to prolong it-- not because he's hurt by what Lindsey is saying, as he's just finding it too much work to engage on that level, and he's essentially very quickly burned out. I don't think Mark is a bad guy, or means to hurt Lindsey, and I think he does care about her-- but he just can't swim in the emotional deep water that she takes for granted. In that sense, they were a total mismatch. In fact, I think it would be difficult to match either one of them, because they're both pretty difficult to relate to. Someone who wants to stay on a fairly simple level, could maybe work with him. But he really wouldn't be able to meet anyone's emotional needs if they were wanting more than that-- but then maybe there are plenty of people who would be satisfied by a nice, well=meaning guy with whom they could start a family. And one of his really good qualities is that he doesn't seem to need to have dominance and control over the other persons feelings and decisions
Speaking of which, the Australian MAFS guy from Texas I never caught his name) is the exact opposite. Not only does he not care about the impact of anything he says on his partner-- which he calls "homest" and I would call cruel, harsh and often rubbing in what is already a hurtful comment-- but the instant his "wife" says anything he doesn't like or is "honest" in a way that isn't what he wants to hear, he flips into attack mode. What a non-prize this guy is. I feel really sorry for the woman who is his partner, who is so sad and already has a sense of failure because she may have lost her chance to have a child. She doesn't deserve this guy's brand of meanness. RE the bolded: Yes! You 100 % nailed it! I was shocked that the remaining 4 couples decided to stay together on Decision Day. I had read the spoilers which had said that Jasmina and Mike both decided to divorce on DD, so I was thrown for a loop. I've read elsewhere that the show 'paid' bonuses to the couples if they would agree to say 'yes' on Decision Day. The show isn't known for being ethical but I find that so hard to believe. I don't think it's looking good for many of them and if Jasmina and Michael aren't even going to live together, I don't see how her attraction to him can grow. We already know he'd be happy to be intimate with Jasmina; you can tell he's very attracted to her. I don't know what she's looking for. I think he's very nice looking and just needs to trim that beard back, majorly. Yeah, he's a little bit short, but so what? He's got a nice body. Unless he's totally different off-camera, I just don't see what's not to like? Katina, poor Katina. I wish she would have had more respect for herself and kicked Olaj to the curb. He's so demeaning and he's living back in the 50s if he wants a wife so traditional that all she does is take care of his needs. I'm speaking as a very traditional wife who DOES almost all the cooking and cleaning in our home but I chose to become a SAHW and SAHM when I gave birth to my children. I have worked periodically here and there throughout our long marriage, sometimes even full-time, but the onus was still on me to do the cooking and cleaning, so I chose not to continue working. But for a couple who BOTH work f/t, well Olaj is barking up the wrong tree if he thinks it's all going to be on Katina. He thinks he's a king and she should please him 24/7; Does he ever think of HER needs? I don't see Mark and Lyndsey lasting, either. She's just too much for him. I think the only couple who will last are Steve and Noi and I actually wish they wouldn't b/c I'm not a big fan of Noi. I think Steve is too good for her.
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Post by ccfromcan on May 13, 2022 2:26:22 GMT
I think all the couples were urged (paid?) to stay together because of the last 2 seasons. None of them should have and I can’t believe they will stay together.
Am I the only one who doesn’t like Steve? I think he’s just yuck.
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Post by Critical on May 13, 2022 3:15:38 GMT
I doubt the production staff has much to do with the DD decisions. I don't think anyone is coercing them to stay married. I think it has more to do with them all wanting to not look like the villain on TV. I HIGHLY doubt Michael and Jasmina lasted much beyond DD filming and I'd guess it was because of her. If you don't want to move in with your spouse, you aren't really interested in trying. IMO, she said yes so she didn't look like a total b!tch, since Michael has been trying so hard and is such a good guy. WHY did we need to see Alyssa? WHY!? It looks like we're going to get more of her delusional "I'm a really good person" crap for the reunion. I hope Kevin Frasier gives her a truth bomb on that. NO one looked happy to see her, except maybe Katina. I was 100% with Lindsay on that. The experts really did Chris dirty. I was rooting for Katina to get a backbone, find some self respect and dump O. If any man spoke to and about me like that, he'd need to start running. You could see how uncomfortable the experts were when he started spewing that crap. I have hope that she did dump him because she has a very different hairdo in the clips of the reunion. Lord knows, nothing prompts a drastic change in hairstyle than getting out of a crappy relationship! I think Mark and Lindsay on a 5 would stay together. Unfortunately, neither of them can or are willing to NOT be on at least an 8 or 9 all the time. It's exhausting just watching them. I do think Steve and Noi will stay together, at least for now. Maybe not long term. Decision Day was September 25 and the reunion was filmed Feb. 19th and 20th. That's a lot of time.
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Post by Imperfect1 on May 14, 2022 20:15:57 GMT
I can’t believe all these couples stayed together. I bet by reunion and just seeing the previews some are not. We know O and Katina must be still together because of that neck tattoo. It kept showing up in the interviews but it wasn’t there on the reunion show. These too should not be together. Did they really need the 5 th couple there . Glad this season is over it felt really long. I totally agree! And I was really blown away that the worst season of this show (to me) ended up with the most couples staying together! Unbelievable! Although, I think all of you guys are right, that most of them, if not all of them, won't stay together for long! In fact, it almost seemed as if the couples were treating their staying together as a 'trial marriage' rather than a full commitment of love and marriage. So, there's that!
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Post by Critical on May 16, 2022 20:43:37 GMT
Okay, reunion spoilers, courtesy of MAFS Fan.
{Spoiler} Steve and Noi are together at the reunion and are still together. Apparently, both Mark and Lindsay and Michael and Jasmina are broken up by the reunion AND none of them have gotten back together since then. Katina and Olajuwan are together as of the reunion, but might not be together now. MAFS Fan has gotten reports that they aren't together any more, but hasn't been able to confirm that. Remember, the reunion was filmed in February. That's 3 months for Katina to come to her senses and give that jerk the boot!
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Post by nicksmom on May 19, 2022 18:25:21 GMT
So most of that I saw coming at the reunion. Actually surprised Noi and Steve are still together since she won’t give up her place and he still doesn’t have a job.
I believe this was taped in February.
Alyssa sure doesn’t get it yet. Loved they showed clips of the total opposite she was saying.
Lyndsey is magical didn’t know that. Well at least she moved to L.A so he doesn’t have to worry about her anymore.
Liked Katrina short hair, that was some rock he gave but we really didn’t see it with her finger on it…lol Not sure O is a changed man but she said he is.
Jasmina sure is cold, I know she said she wanted romance but both didn’t show anything. Michael deserves better.
Can’t wait to see what the experts say. The host, Kevin actually didn’t bother me last night sometimes he does. He was on them about stuff.
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Post by mayamaisha on May 19, 2022 23:57:39 GMT
I think Jasmine wants a “bad boy”
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Post by coco46 on May 27, 2022 15:29:25 GMT
I am so glad this show is over with!
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Post by mayamaisha on May 27, 2022 20:05:03 GMT
I am so glad this show is over with! Me too.
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Post by shyra on May 28, 2022 0:13:05 GMT
There is one more show on next week called Married at First Sight: Where Are They Now? about this season.
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Post by rockytopchick on May 28, 2022 12:23:30 GMT
From the previews, next week is going to show something about how Chris is dating someone, apparently from within the MAFS world. I wouldn't mind a whole show about how well Chris's life is going and how he is happily involved with someone who appreciates him, juxtaposed with Alyssa being miserable and lonely with no one to tell her what a good person she is.
They can throw in something about Noi and Steve being blissfully happy together, too. But the rest of them I can do without
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Post by Critical on May 29, 2022 5:04:55 GMT
Chris may be dating Olivia from the New Orleans season (she was matched with Brett because they both loved cats and football) and it's rumored that Alyssa is involved in some way with Ryan from last season (also married to a Brett!). Based on the previews, that doesn't look like a love match.
I loved that Dr. Pepper gave Alyssa a little truth bomb after her teary "I'm a really good person" nonsense. Whenever people whine about how they're portrayed on a reality show, I think back to Kelley on RW New Orleans, who said about the subject something like, "You can't complain [about being made to look bad] because you did say it and you did do it."
I really hope that the episode next week involves the update that Katina and Olajuwan have split up. She deserves so much better. I just don't believe he's truly changed. I think he changed his behavior on camera. I think he - rightfully so - got a lot of flack on social media about how he was speaking to Katina, so he realized he'd better shape up and present a different face to the cameras. I don't think he's really changed.
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Post by justCoz on May 29, 2022 14:17:39 GMT
Chris may be dating Olivia from the New Orleans season (she was matched with Brett because they both loved cats and football) and it's rumored that Alyssa is involved in some way with Ryan from last season (also married to a Brett!). Based on the previews, that doesn't look like a love match. I loved that Dr. Pepper gave Alyssa a little truth bomb after her teary "I'm a really good person" nonsense. Whenever people whine about how they're portrayed on a reality show, I think back to Kelley on RW New Orleans, who said about the subject something like, "You can't complain [about being made to look bad] because you did say it and you did do it." I really hope that the episode next week involves the update that Katina and Olajuwan have split up. She deserves so much better. I just don't believe he's truly changed. I think he changed his behavior on camera. I think he - rightfully so - got a lot of flack on social media about how he was speaking to Katina, so he realized he'd better shape up and present a different face to the cameras. I don't think he's really changed. I couldn't figure out why Kevin kept saying they had some great love story and how much he's changed because I don't believe O has changed all that much either.
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Post by nicksmom on May 30, 2022 15:11:16 GMT
I have to catch up the reunion didn’t record last week but they are replaying it before this week. Wonder if here in Canada they didn’t show it.
Not sure if this show has run its coarse with me or this season was just so bad and boring . It seemed on repeat conversions over and over.
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Post by Ellabella on Jun 2, 2022 0:55:19 GMT
Olivia came to Boston to meet up with Chris. They seem to get along so well. I sure hope those two can make it work together. Both deserve someone better than what they were matched with on their season.
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Post by Ellabella on Jun 2, 2022 0:58:19 GMT
Mark is going on a date with someone Steve knows.
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Post by Ellabella on Jun 2, 2022 1:03:18 GMT
Ryan and Alyssa are on a date now.
Ryan flew to Boston and he wants Alyssa to show him all of Boston.
They also bowled and ate a huge sandwich.
Well that was a quick end of this thing between Alyssa and Ryan. She found out Lindsey talked to Ryan and he did not tell her about it.
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Post by Eastcoastmom on Jun 2, 2022 16:31:59 GMT
Olivia came to Boston to meet up with Chris. They seem to get along so well. I sure hope those two can make it work together. Both deserve someone better than what they were matched with on their season. I think that was a 'one and done' as prompted by the show producers. Chris is dating someone else now. His current girlfriend has posted some photos of them on her social media.
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Post by Ellabella on Jun 2, 2022 22:38:36 GMT
Olivia came to Boston to meet up with Chris. They seem to get along so well. I sure hope those two can make it work together. Both deserve someone better than what they were matched with on their season. I think that was a 'one and done' as prompted by the show producers. Chris is dating someone else now. His current girlfriend has posted some photos of them on her social media. Oh ok, did not know that. I am not on any of their social media sites.
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Post by Eastcoastmom on Jun 2, 2022 22:50:44 GMT
I think that was a 'one and done' as prompted by the show producers. Chris is dating someone else now. His current girlfriend has posted some photos of them on her social media. Oh ok, did not know that. I am not on any of their social media sites. I actually saw the photo on another forum where someone posted the Instagram post. I've no idea what the woman's name is.
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